I tried the simlogical shrub, but he was not listed anywhere. I also tried the summon part of Insim and he was not listed there either.
I thought since he was set as default that he would show up with the other default sims, but I guess I was wrong.
I had not thought of the adoption thing, thanks. I may try the adoption to see if I can get the two babies back. What is bad is that she still has all of her flags set with the husband and when I was unable to undo the marriage flag using insim. I've used that before on other sims and it's worked fine.
It's not that big of a deal. I'll just have her find another love and try to set marriage tags for them.
Maybe I'll back up the neighborhood again and try to uncheck her marriage flag.