Actually, to "use" a shrub, you need outgoing > 900 or active < 100 (and to be male). Neatness < 100 affects whether you can "use" a shower.
I am pretty sure I am pretty maxed in the outgoing part but I will check that. As far as the neatness thing are you saying it has to be 1 or less to use the shower?
Darn darn I'm not giving up...guess just have to meditate, meditate, meditate.
Does the outgoing part work for a guy using a money tree too?
Thanks everyone for the help just figued the damn sim was screwin w/ me just b/c it someone how knew it was part of a challenge.