But that's too expensive and will make everyone else hate me. Even that "Planetbusters don't cause hate" mod doesn't work for me for some reason. If I make the planets T3, can the Grox bring them back down to T0 or not? If they can't, that's just as effective as blowing up the planet.
Only those within 10pc will witness the act and hate you. Since you are all the way in a distant arm of the galaxy, and the only people who will witness the atrocity are the Grox, because you are kinda DEMOLISHING THE BOWELS OF GROX SPACE, no one will care!
As for expensive...you are amassing a coalition of 6-25 of your own races in a massive effort to eliminate an empire of some 2.4K planets from the galaxy. No matter WHAT you do, it's going to be expensive! Either it will cost you a fortune in cash, a fortune in time, or, most likely, BOTH! Get used to it!
True, true. And I wasn't aware of the 10pc thing, that's helpful. I think I'll just go with getting all their planets to T3 though, then they'll actually be inhabitable for my allies, who can work to get rid of the Grox WITH me. Or at least slow them down when they're trying to get to my colonies.