Turning autopatch off seems to have fixed it.. thanks!

I recently installed Bon Voyage, and ever since, my neighborhood selector screen lags/stutters.  Sometimes other loading screens, such as loading a neighborhood or lot, will lag as well.  I don't really have much lag during game play, just during the loading screens.

I have all the expansions through BV (no FT) and no stuff packs.  Only BV compatible hacks from Pescado, Twojeffs, and Inge.  I'm also using Fairlight's no-cd crack, so no securom.

Windows XP
AMD Athlon 64 Processor 2.4 GHz
2 GB RAM
Nvidia GEforce FX 5600

I thought I had the hack installed but apparently I skipped over it; now one of my sims still thinks he is married to his dead wife and doesn't have the "Propose-Engagement" option.  Is there a way to fix him using Simpe?